Humans are creatures of habit and we hate leaving our comfort zone. That means most of us opt for spending nights in, relaxed and comfy, when given a choice. Today, that means we can lead our entire social lives from the comfort of our homes; and yes, that includes meeting new people for the purposes of procreation. I enjoy being comfortable and relaxed (well, everyone does, but I feel like it's especially important to me). If I'm chill and relaxed, I'll project an aura of confidence, at least that's what people tell me. People notice it when I'm happy and chatty, and they're attracted to that. When someone is relaxed, they seem more in control and people respond well to that; and since self-confidence is often rated as the single most attractive quality in a partner... you do the math.
Dating over the phone or at your computer isn't really all that different from regular dating. It's all about people seeking connections, looking for partners and friends. And for people like me, it's a perfect option. Why would I spend the night at a bar or a club being chatted up by random (and often boring) people when I can talk to someone whom I would much rather talk with at home? If I'm online, I'm in control; I decide who I talk to, if someone is dull or obnoxious or even abusive, I can ignore or block them. Easy! Don't get me wrong, I still go out clubbing. I like drinking and dancing, but I'll likely just arrange a meeting with someone I met online. Clubs, bars and cafes just aren't places where I look for partners or friends anymore. If I meet someone, great; if not, well, it's not like I lack options.
So, I'm often on or snuggled up on the sofa with my phone in hand or a laptop in my... lap. I'm browsing interesting profiles of people I'd like to meet. When I start typing the message, I already have a perfect scenario in mind; from a candle-lit dinner, to a whole-night clubbing bender, to a mysterious getaway. The best thing is, if the spark is missing, I can just move on to the next person on the list. With the plethora of options online dating provides, there's always that next waiting for me.